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Turns to Resentment

~~Jennifer James

Have you ever been disappointed by the way someone remembered your birthday or anniversary? Have you anticipated a special present for Christmas and then had to conceal your disappointment when you opened the box?

Disappointment turns to resentment. "Why don't they care about me? Why aren't they more aware of my needs and preferences? Why won't they love me the way I want to be loved?"

They love you the only way they know how: their way. Are you able to recognize and accept other people's styles of loving?

You can always try to teach people to love you in your style, but never expect anyone, no matter how close, to read your mind and heart. Tell them what you want. The investment you make in surprise is often a hidden expectation that brings disappointment.

Better yet, buy yourself your heart's desire. Don't turn special days into tests of love. Take care of yourself in the style you prefer--yours. Then, anything else you receive on that day will seem like extra love that you can enjoy without hurtful expectations.

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"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
--Mark Twain

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